I am completely aware that it has been a very sparse blogging season for me. Not a day has passed during the past few months that I have not looked at my ipad and felt the weight of the lack of writing. My fingers have longed to type. But my heart has said no.
It’s been a very long while since I have updated, but much has been happening behind the scenes. We are moving forward, and the actual embryo transfer is scheduled on the calendar!
Medically speaking, my body has been responding to the meds and procedures exactly the way it’s supposed to and we have every reason to hope that our babies will survive and thrive. Emotionally speaking, this has been a faith journey like no other for me. I have been stretched in every direction, and I am depending completely on the Lord to sustain these babies, provide for the remaining financial costs, and do a work in me throughout the rest of this process.
Financially speaking, God showed us an avenue for provision that should eventually cover most of the cost, but that provision is neither here yet nor 100% guranteed. So while we have no plans for any more official “fundraisers” we are still deeply grateful for additional financial gifts and donations. Those can be made through http://www.paypal.me/hallembryoadoption or by mail with checks made out to Clay or Monica Hall at Hall Embryo Adoption, PO Box 92, Grand Rivers, KY 42045.
I know this is a vague update, but we are keeping some details purposely vague to protect my privacy and my fragile emotions during the weeks surrounding the actual transfer. Remember, once the embryos are transferred, we still have quite a wait before we know if they will continue growing and developing and actually have a healthy pregnancy. We are trusting the Lord and completely surrendering this to Him.
Your prayers, encouragement, and financial support means more to us than we can say. Please keep praying for us and for these babies. And hopefully soon, we’ll be sharing the joyous announcement of the fruit of your investment in our family and in the lives of these tiny ones.
It’s been awhile since we posted an update on our journey.
If you are just finding out about our embryo adoption, you might want to read about what we’re doing, why we’re doing it, and why we’re doing it this way to catch up. Here’s where we stand right now: we are at just under 20% in our funding, leaving a little more than $12,000 left to raise.
One reality about embryo adoption that is different than traditional adoption is that we do not qualify for any of the typical adoption grants that you may have heard of people receiving to help with their adoption costs. There are a few grants out there for embryo adoption, but they are given to infertile couples using this as their route to first-time parenthood. Also, embryo adoption is not eligible for the Adoption Tax Credit. So those are two big avenues of financial help typical in traditional adoptions that are not open to us. So even though our costs are significantly lower than traditional adoption, we have fewer resources available for help. We are relying solely on the provision of the Lord through individuals and groups who choose to partner with us directly by helping us raise the $15,000 total medical costs for us to adopt two embryos.
We have been in constant prayer, seeking the Lord for His plan for us and for these embryos, and we believe He is continuing to lead us down this road. Because of that, we are going out on faith and asking Him for big things during the month of August. We are asking Him to provide most if not all of the remaining $12,000 this month, so that by our appointment at the clinic on September 11, we will be able to tell them we’re ready to start the process for embryo transfer by the end of this year. That’s a huge goal, we know, but we serve a huge God.
Many of you have already partnered with us and we are grateful. If you haven’t, here are some ways you can help:
- You can sponsor a puzzle piece–we have a blank puzzle that we are filling in with the names of those who give to make this adoption possible. If you give a gift of $35 or more, your name will be added to the puzzle as a permanent reminder to us of your generosity and investment in these babies’ lives.
- You can give as a group–maybe you’d like to help but $35 is a stretch or you would just like to get your friends involved. Consider giving as a Sunday school class, small group, etc, and we’ll include your group on our family puzzle.
- Donate through your business–If you are an independent consultant for a direct sales company, consider allowing me to host an online or in-person party for your product, with a percentage of the proceeds going to the adoption. Or donate a percentage of the proceeds from one specific product or one specific time frame.
- Local friends, hire us–our children are as excited about this as we are, and they are eager to help. Catherine and Elisabeth can turn out goodies from the oven that are both delicious and good-looking. Cupcakes, cookies, pies, breads, and basic cakes–consider placing an order or watching for our posts when we have a baking day and have some to sell. They would also be willing to make pillows like they sold last summer if you had a special request. Abigail loves children and has gone through baby-sitting training and would love to care for your children. All of them are willing to do tasks like helping outdoors, helping with animals while you’re out of town, or helping with odd jobs here and there.
- Spread the word–maybe there’s no way for you to help financially. Believe me, we understand. We haven’t always been able to help when our friends were raising money, either. But maybe you know someone with a heart for adoption or pro-life causes that might be in a position to help financially. Consider sharing our story with someone who might be interested in investing in life this way.
Financial gifts can be given via PayPal at www.paypal.me/hallembryoadoption, or by mail (checks made out to Clay or Monica Hall) at Hall Embryo Adoption, PO Box 92, Grand Rivers, KY 42045, or given in person.
There are no words to express our gratitude for those who are partnering with us, either financially or by praying with us through this process. We will likely never be able to repay you in this life, but we trust our Lord to grant you an eternal reward on your investment. May God bless you as you join us on this journey.
“We haven’t really found a good church to join since we moved here a few years ago. We’ve visited around though. We’re at one church or another most Sundays.”
“I know my child’s travel ball teams cause us to miss church a lot, but we always have a team devotional, and sometimes we find a church to visit while we’re out of town.”
“I really can’t find a church I like where I live, but there’s a small group of us that meet once a week in homes for Bible study, and really, that’s more in line with the way it was in the New Testament anyway.”
“I don’t really go to church in person very often, but I listen to sermons on podcasts all through the week.”
“I love my church. We’re not as involved as we used to be when the kids were little. Their activities take up so much time, and sometimes Sunday is the only day we get to spend time as a family. We still make it to church a couple times a month, though. I really love my church.”
The next fruit in Paul’s list is goodness. Goodness is very closely related to kindness. Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, in the same quote referenced in the kindness section, also quotes Jerry Bridges defining goodness: “Goodness is kindness in action, words, and deeds.” Another helpful look at the difference between kindness and goodness comes from an article on the Family Life website: “While kindness is the soft side of good, goodness reflects the character of God. Goodness in you desires to see goodness in others and is not beyond confronting or even rebuking (as Jesus did with the money changers in the temple) for that to happen.” (10 Ideas: Reflecting the Fruit of the Spirit, by Scott Williams) So if kindness is a heart inclination to make someone happy, goodness is how kindness is shown. It is acting toward others in a way that benefits them, that is for their best. Here is where we see what might stop the parents from allowing the kind-hearted stranger to buy their children ice cream. If they know that the ice cream will not be beneficial to their children, it is good for them to say no, even if it would be kind for the stranger to buy it.